• Grieving after first trimester miscarriage
    Life

    Grieving After A First Trimester Miscarriage

    Miscarriage is one of those experiences where most women have either had to go through it themselves or have known someone else who has gone through it. But no one talks about it. We are told not to disclose our pregnancies until the second trimester when the risk of miscarriage has decreased significantly. And while that does make sense, for the women who experience a pregnancy that is not viable during that first trimester, the grieving process can be remarkably lonely...

  • Parenting

    How Becoming a Mom Changed Me For the Worse

    Is anyone else still trying to catch their breath after these past few weeks? Whose idea was it to put all these holidays so close together? It must be those damn pagans again. I feel like I’ve been exhausted for years – in between hosting get togethers at our home, seeing out-of-town friends, last minute Christmas shopping, last minute Christmas shopping returns, working, and the several attacks of the itis that I’ve had from all this amazing food I’ve stuffed down my stomach. And, on top of that, our son turned two years old this past Sunday. I spent much more time on preparations for the day than I thought…

  • Long distance relationships
    Marriage

    Long Distance Relationships Can Work: Here’s How

    Last Friday night, my husband and I had a bit of a wild adventure. His mother had asked us if we needed her to watch our son for us so she could get some snuggle time in with him. We responded with a very emphatic “YES OH GOD YES TAKE HIM.” I also recently received a promotion at work, so we were going to shit crazy on our child-free date night. And we totally did. We stayed out until 10PM, y’all. Then came home and ate bourbon roasted pecans before passing out on the couch with the movie “Rampage” on in the background. We didn’t even bother to brush our…

  • Toddler disclipine
    Parenting

    Parenting Methods in a Judgment Free Zone

    Terrible Twos. Threenagers. F*cked Up Fours. It’s all fun and games until you’re going through it with your own children. I’m an adult with three decades of life experience, a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, and a Master’s degree in Conflict Management. Yet I consistently lose arguments to a barely literate 2-year-old with a love of the word “no” and a healthy set of lungs. So discipline is something that my husband and I have had to try to figure out and get on the same page more now that our son has discovered the joys of pissing us off. The problem is that there’s no real firm, helpful guidebook on raising children.…

  • Mental health days
    Parenting

    Mental Health Days as a Mom

    You may have seen an uptick in news articles discussing the principle behind taking “mental health days” off from work and your rights at your place of employment to use a vacation or sick day if you’re not physically sick (such as this article or this one or this one). But what about taking mental health days as a mother? There is no “Paid Time Off” when you’re a mom. In fact, there’s no pay at all and I’m not sure who came up with that shit system. Am I the only one that feels that I should receive some sort of stipend from the government in exchange for raising…