• Grieving after first trimester miscarriage

    Grieving After A First Trimester Miscarriage

    Miscarriage is one of those experiences where most women have either had to go through it themselves or have known someone else who has gone through it. But no one talks about it. We are told not to disclose our pregnancies until the second trimester when the risk of miscarriage has decreased significantly. And while that does make sense, for the women who experience a pregnancy that is not viable during that first trimester, the grieving process can be remarkably lonely...

  • Green bean casserole
    Life,  Marriage

    Green Bean Casserole Almost Ruined My Marriage

    Well, not really. But y’all. Some folks take their green bean casserole making seriously. Including my husband. After the family dysfunction that I wrote about last week, we ended up being invited over to the home of a family friend to spend Thanksgiving with them. I was mainly excited to partake in an amazing Thanksgiving spread without having to deal with hosting one myself or family drama. We still wanted to contribute though so we offered to bring green bean casserole as one of our sides. Disclaimer: I am not a fan of green bean casserole. How a dish made up of canned green beans, cream of mushroom, and fried…

  • Dysfunctional family during the holidays

    Dysfunctional Family During the Holidays

    This week, I’ve had a lot of things on my mind. For one thing, I’m failing miserably at convincing my son that the potty should be used for peeing in and not stuffing whole rolls of toilet paper inside. I’m also currently exercising my penchant for strongly worded letter campaigns against my home warranty company for refusing to cover some plumbing repairs. Oh, and then there is the toxic, irritating, dysfunctional familial mess that I was involuntarily brought into which has exploded into something that may tear my family-of-origin apart. Heavy, right?   I know how much it sucks dealing with family drama, especially around the holidays. It’s an exhausting…

  • Cinderella pumpkins

    Things I Was Deprived of As A Child: Halloween Edition

    As the child of very religious (and very Catholic) Nigerian parents, I had a different upbringing than many of my friends. I still remember the drama that ensued when my godmother convinced my mom that I would turn into a witch if she continued allowing me to read Harry Potter. Luckily, my father intervened; I think that he could sense that this would be the one thing that broke me because I made it very clear that there was absolutely no way in hell that I was giving up my Harry Potter books. If I had to rewatch every episode of “Charmed” and actually turn into a witch to prevent…

  • Life,  Marriage

    Looking Back On One Year of Marriage

    Alternative Title: Getting Nostalgic on Wedding Cake. Today my husband and I celebrate our 1 year wedding anniversary.   Our wedding was a glorious day filled with declarations of love and commitment in front of our family and  friends. It was also a drunken mess that ended with me throwing up in the bathroom of a bar during our post reception party (still wearing my wedding dress, I should add). It was only the second time in my life that I do not have a reliable recall of events for a significant part of the day.       Oh, the memories! I’m in one of those nostalgic moods where I…