• Parenting

    How Becoming a Mom Changed Me For the Worse

    Is anyone else still trying to catch their breath after these past few weeks? Whose idea was it to put all these holidays so close together? It must be those damn pagans again. I feel like I’ve been exhausted for years – in between hosting get togethers at our home, seeing out-of-town friends, last minute Christmas shopping, last minute Christmas shopping returns, working, and the several attacks of the itis that I’ve had from all this amazing food I’ve stuffed down my stomach. And, on top of that, our son turned two years old this past Sunday. I spent much more time on preparations for the day than I thought…

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    Parenting

    Parenting Methods in a Judgment Free Zone

    Terrible Twos. Threenagers. F*cked Up Fours. It’s all fun and games until you’re going through it with your own children. I’m an adult with three decades of life experience, a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, and a Master’s degree in Conflict Management. Yet I consistently lose arguments to a barely literate 2-year-old with a love of the word “no” and a healthy set of lungs. So discipline is something that my husband and I have had to try to figure out and get on the same page more now that our son has discovered the joys of pissing us off. The problem is that there’s no real firm, helpful guidebook on raising children.…

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    Parenting

    Mental Health Days as a Mom

    You may have seen an uptick in news articles discussing the principle behind taking “mental health days” off from work and your rights at your place of employment to use a vacation or sick day if you’re not physically sick (such as this article or this one or this one). But what about taking mental health days as a mother? There is no “Paid Time Off” when you’re a mom. In fact, there’s no pay at all and I’m not sure who came up with that shit system. Am I the only one that feels that I should receive some sort of stipend from the government in exchange for raising…

  • Parenting

    Five Stages of Grief: Money After Kids

    Managing your finances following the birth of your children can be a bitch. Most people probably aren’t surprised to learn that there tends to be an inverse correlation between the amount of children you have and the disposable income you have left at the end of the month. But did you know that many parents also go through the five stages of grief following the loss of their cash coinciding with the birth of their money pits children? Denial Surely this can’t be right. I sit in shock as I anxiously and repeatedly refresh the website page, thinking that maybe the numbers will suddenly change. Someone must have stolen my credit…

  • Working Parents
    Career and Home,  Parenting

    Letter to the Working Parents

    Dear Working Parents, I’d ask you how you were doing but I already know. Tired. Busy. Grumpy. Surviving on leftover Halloween candy and cocaine caffeine. The usual. I’m with you. Over the past couple of weeks at work, I’ve: prepared and presented a training seminar, start preparing for another training seminar I will be facilitating next week, traveled out of town to attend a court ordered mediation on a litigated insurance claim I’m handling, attended two additional mediations virtually, and had days packed with back-to-back meetings and teleconferences. Then there’s what happened at outside of the 9-to-5 which included filing insurance and home warranty claims for a plumbing leak in…